Friday, October 13, 2017

A Wedding Planning Ramble

One would think that reducing the size of a wedding would reduce the amount of time or money spent on said wedding. At least, that's what I thought. And, to a fault, that theory is true. We don't have to pay for as many meals or for as many favors or desserts with a lower head count, but the discounting pretty much stops there. Spencer and I have been trying to pave our own wedding day path, rather than follow any traditional "templates" put in place by many of the couples before us. Unfortunately, the farther you stray from tradition, the more time consuming and expensive your wedding can become. 

I've never really been a "normal" person, I threw the rule book out the window a long time ago, and because of this I never thought I'd be the type for a traditional wedding. That being said, I still feel a small amount of outside pressure (maybe a little from myself as well) to maintain some traditionalism in our wedding. Lucky for me, I've found someone who tolerates my eccentricities and dreaming up our non-conformal-yet-conforming wedding was relatively easy for us to do. This creative thinking process however, has been both a blessing and a curse. I mean, sure, it's fun to dream and think up different ways to celebrate your love and relationship but things can turn sour when you concoct a "genius-never-before-seen" plan that does not align with your budget. Having to tell yourself "no" over and over again because of money is emotionally and creatively exhausting! Thankfully, after many mildly stressful changes to the plan, Spencer and I have found and settled on a wedding day that is both traditional and uniquely ours. 

Spencer and I are a creative and skilled unit, and a lot of the extras that we would otherwise shell out hundreds (or even thousands) of dollars for are going to become our DIY projects over the next several months. But this hasn't been all sunshine and ponies. What you save in money you lose greatly in time. Wedding work has absorbed most of my free and working time and I'm ready for it to be over. I enjoy dreaming, I enjoy planning, I even enjoy coordinating plans with outside vendors. What I don't care for is the mess of paper scraps, lace and twine strewn across our kitchen table while I put together our handcrafted invitations. I don't care for the hunt for the perfect table setting or the ideal dessert table display. I like pinning beautiful pictures on my Pinterest wedding board but turning all of my inspiration into our own unique reality without breaking the bank is a challenge that leaves me very tired. Also, #done.

I'd be lying if I said I hated every part of this wedding planning process. There are many positives and they do outweigh the few negatives I've mentioned in this post. I'm just being dramatic, this is a rant after all.... 

-Stephanie
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